In the past, women would sit together to cook, care for their kids, gather food and have women business conversations. On a daily basis, they would be there for one another, keeping each other resilient and happy.
Today, we somehow get a burst of these feminine circles when we gather with our soulful female friends and delve deep into our woman-centric topics. But women are taken by their fast paced and demanding lives and careers. We feel more isolated with our own challenges. what used to be daily interactions in the past becomes more sporadic or planned. That new rhythm doesn't mesh well with our true nature that loves to nurture, care and share. And we still push through with all our courage. Whether in our personal lives and professional lives, deep down we miss the beautiful support, bond and nourishment that comes from being with others. That leaves us edgy, worried and second guessing ourselves.
Whether in life or business, here are five reasons women need to nurture a community of strong women around them:
1 – It reduces stress and frustration.
Bonding with other women is a biological response to soothing ourselves when faced with stressors. And we naturally love to nurture others. It gives us the satisfaction of supporting others as well. So it's a win-win. Supporting other women is so rewarding and is the clearest way to receive the support you need too. We love reciprocity. Women are natural nurturers and empathic givers. It is vital for them to receive and be nourished. They instinctively know how to nourish each other. Alert: Continual giving out ends in depletion, an increasingly common health problem (hello burnout).
2 – You get sharp accountability and feedback to stay on track .
Having a community of caring and ambitious women that you share your goals and dreams with keeps you accountable to yourself. Everyone needs external affirmation showing them they are capable and urging them to keep going. Call it love, support, encouragement or sisterhood, no one is successful on their own. And we get so often sidetracked by the many other things and the roles we have in our lives as well as the people we need to take care of, that our personal goals drop down the list. We need to remind each other to keep going for them- even if there are some set-backs and obstacles. And that we're worthy of our dreams, goals and desires.
3 – You Celebrate the process.
We tend to be too hard on ourselves when things don't work out right. And then, we forget to celebrate our high moments. We're always work in progress. And thinking in terms of perfection is the no.1 way to procrastinate on your goals. Sharing vulnerable moments is part of growth. And we're often censored to acknowledge our feelings because we have to suck it up and keep moving. Being with supportive women who allow you to respect your feelings and show up more as yourself can add tons of value to how you grow as a woman.
Female friendships that work are relationships in which women help each other to belong to themselves. — Louise Bernikow
4 – You get to learn different insights, perspectives, and wisdom.
Not every answer is on the google. Not all support will be found with you family, lover, spouse, and friends. Exchanging ideas and insights with people who share common interests, who've been there can add so much value to your own life. Truth sharing through stories can inspire, uplift and create shifts. Being in the company of women who make you think bigger when you feel small. Who make you see the new perspectives through their own journey, when you can't see the possibilities on your own. To learn and grow together and to add to each other on our journey.
5 – You don't need to be doing it on your own.
Women need to support women more than ever and you can choose the people you want to hang around with. Because energy and vibes are truly felt. And when you're on to creating and doing gutsy things it's important to surround yourself with the right mindset. The people you feel are just right for you. The people who will make you turn off the fear voices in your head and pump up the volume of creativity, desire and action. To support your own growth, you don't have to do it alone but you'll have to actively look for your people.
- Those who share similar drive and visions in life, love, business, spirituality and personal development.
- Those who've got a purpose and are doing something.
- Those who want to evolve and grow.
- Those who reciprocate and are generous with their time and presence.
Find your people, love them hard.
Right now, we're able to connect people far and wide through similar passions and goals. Celebrating together the process whether high or low (because both are necessary to learn and grow). That makes us feel that we're in this together. For real. Heart to heart. Soul to Soul. We are not alone in our struggles and challenges. It’s nice to know that there is life after failure. It’s even better when you know that you have a group of women that are committed to helping you achieve your goals as you are to them in the pursuit of theirs.
I'm curious about you, do you create the support you need around you so you can keep resilient and enthusiastic?What do you look for through other women's support? What are the communities you reach out to for encouragement and growth?
We're in this together.
P.S.I just launched Gutsy Women the Feminine Leadership Mastermind group. It's free. It's for soulful and ambitious women who want to surrender their fears and stay on track with their personal goals. If you've got fire in your belly, want to be more of you every day, discover your purpose and bring more of your passion- You can learn more about Gutsy Women Feminine leadership and join here.
I help freedom-seeking ambitious women professionals and entrepreneurs who are done with playing small to stop the doubt, the guilt and second-guessing and start creating a passionate life that lights them up from the inside out. I support them to make their own exciting choices and totally trust themselves in life, relationships and in their workplace.